Today I am going to write from the heart, and I'm going to talk about doing weddings your way. One thing I can't stress enough to future couples is the importance of doing a wedding your own way.
Too often people get caught up in the commercialisation of weddings, and worried about pleasing everyone.
Well I say, don't.
A wedding is the celebration of YOUR love story. The only two people you need to please are yourselves.
If someone is pushing you to have a church wedding, but your dream is an intimate ceremony in a forest, then do it.
If someone is pushing you into traditions and formalities, but you are more 'jandals on a beach' kind of couple, then embrace it. A wedding day should be a direct representation of your inner most self.
Don't want to wear a white dress? Don't wear one!
If you are a bride, and your bestie is a guy, have him in your bridal party. The tradition of the 'identical' bridal party only started in ancient times to scare off and confuse potential kidnappers and evil spirits as they wouldn't be able to identify the bride and groom.
If you want to elope, go for it! Have a party later on.
What I want to say is that you shouldn't be scared to break tradition, you shouldn't be worried about others thoughts and feelings - this is your love story!
Some of my favourite weddings have been 'non-traditional' - one bride got married at the top of a playground and made all her guests slide down the slide in celebration. She even arrived by (kids) train!
As always, I can't leave you without an image. Here is a shot from a wedding that reperesented what it means to be family, a community, and to be full of love.